|—||Sarah Kay and Phil Kaye, “An Origin Story” (via ugh)|
So many people today are living in “survival” mode. They have a mentality that says, “If I can just make it through…” or “If I can just get by…” Of course, there are some seasons that are more difficult than others. Sometimes it’s challenging to get a vision for the future. But if you are constantly living with a survival mentality, you are missing out on God’s best. Scripture doesn’t say, “Jesus came so you could survive.” No, it says that He came to give you a full, abundant life!
If you are living in survival mode right now, I believe that today can be your turning point. If you’ll take a step of faith and begin to declare, “My days of survival are over; my days of thriving have begun,” then I believe God will meet your faith. I believe He will open an unexpected door. He’ll pour out His favor and blessing on you. He’ll make a way where there seems to be no way! Even if you’re in a tough time right now, remember tough times don’t last, but the Word of the Lord stands forever. Begin to declare what God says about your circumstances because you are created for more than to just get by — you are created to thrive!
Come, Thou Fount of every blessing,
Tune my heart to sing Thy grace;
Streams of mercy, never ceasing,
Call for songs of loudest praise.
Teach me some melodious sonnet,
Sung by flaming tongues above.
Praise the mount! I’m fixed upon it,
Mount of Thy redeeming love. <3
Okay okay, I know what you’re thinking… “You love being single, really?!” Lol, well I can actually say that that answer is yes! And this time I mean it ;) Now let me tell you why.
I have been single for 19 years yet I never really appreciated this state. When I was younger I always thought that love would come for me later on in life, so that made the “wait” easier and I focused on me. I then began to form a relationship with God and it was better than I expected. I became a great student, sister, daughter, and servant of God. That was all I felt I needed to do for the time being. THEN, one day “later” came. Needless to say I was dumbfounded when “Mr. Right” didn’t jump out of no where and sweep me off of my feet and take me off into the sunset. Yeah… what actually happened was… nothing. Imagine my surprise.
I realized that once again I was trying to control what happens in my life, instead of leaving it into the more than capable hands of my Father.
Because of my expectations I was let down, and then wanted to blame God for something that He never promised me.
Now, He wants us to be happy, don’t get me wrong. But I think that we have to reevaluate our definition of happiness. I used to equate being in a relationship with happiness. I did this even while knowing that many relationships failed. If being in a relationship meant always being happy, then no one would ever break up.
I was reading Esther this morning and I came across something that was meant for me. Robert Farrar Capon is an author who comments that we place unrealistically high expectations on sex, romance, and marriage. The higher our expectations, the more important these things become to us.
This is not to say that we shouldn’t have standards, but if we expect perfect happiness and fulfillment from an earthly relationship, what happens when we don’t get that relationship? Or what happens when it is taken away from you? How will you deal with that?
I never thought about a relationship like that before. I especially didn’t when I decided that I was going to have a year of purposeful singleness. My year is supposed to end in October, but I know that I didn’t give God my all in this. So, I am going to start over. If any of you are doing this let me know and we can encourage each other. If you are already in a relationship, but still want encouragement to focus on God during this time feel free to join in on the chat.
I want to ask you all: Has a relationship ever fulfilled you to the point that you didn’t want anything more? How do you keep God relevant in your relationship? What are ways you keep from being discontent while you are single?
I’m here :)
I am soo happy to see you all again! I have missed you! I just moved into college last week and started a new job and things have been Cray-Z. But all is well.
So excited to share what God is doing in this new season of my life. Tune in to find out about the triumphs and major fails. Tis should be interesting.
One thing I shall say before I go… God never fails. What you drastically need and secretly want He knows and He strives to give you the desires of your heart. Draw near to Him and seek to do His will. There are so many times in a day where I have completely forgotten about What Would Jesus Do… say or think… As a Christian it is detrimental that you stay up on your Bible and devotional readings so that you are clothed and protected with the armor of God.
Have faith my dears, it is key.
God bless friends,
Alycia Chantelle <3